Rule of thumb (aka rule of respect)

I learnt somehow that I should value myself. If I don´t respect myself, why should he then? And why should I value somebody more than myself?

I only miss him and forget what he did. If this is stronger than my inner voice and self-value, there is no reason for him not to do it again.

If I think his actions were disrespectful, I don´t have to be angry. I just understand his reasons and feel that this way I´m better on my own where I can respect myself. I give myself peace and do whatever makes me happy (meditate, ...).

He may realize he cannot treat me that way and rethink his actions.
Or he may not and then it´s the best not to be the subject of his actions.