My therapist captured my state of mind perfectly:
"You, when you´re going to the pain in your body, you expect that it will be already gone when you come there with your attention. But the pain exists to be felt. Only then it can leave."
6 Sept 2014
5 Sept 2014
For you who is just sitting around
My boyfriend told me:
"Investigate! If you don´t get work, look what can be done better. Don´t just sit and wait till somebody explains the stuff to you. Look how it should be done and see how it is done in reality. And then make it better. That will become your responsibility. If they see you can do it better, it will become your task."
Isn´t that motivating?
"Investigate! If you don´t get work, look what can be done better. Don´t just sit and wait till somebody explains the stuff to you. Look how it should be done and see how it is done in reality. And then make it better. That will become your responsibility. If they see you can do it better, it will become your task."
Isn´t that motivating?
Chocolate and dreams
"I think most men want to be in love as much as we do. But sometimes women scare them off. We don´t fulfill our own dreams and we expect them to do it for us. That´s too much for any person to carry."
Menna van Praag - Men, Money and Chocolate
Menna van Praag - Men, Money and Chocolate
4 Sept 2014
Rule of thumb (aka rule of respect)
I learnt somehow that I should value myself. If I don´t respect myself, why should he then? And why should I value somebody more than myself?
I only miss him and forget what he did. If this is stronger than my inner voice and self-value, there is no reason for him not to do it again.
If I think his actions were disrespectful, I don´t have to be angry. I just understand his reasons and feel that this way I´m better on my own where I can respect myself. I give myself peace and do whatever makes me happy (meditate, ...).
He may realize he cannot treat me that way and rethink his actions.
Or he may not and then it´s the best not to be the subject of his actions.
I only miss him and forget what he did. If this is stronger than my inner voice and self-value, there is no reason for him not to do it again.
If I think his actions were disrespectful, I don´t have to be angry. I just understand his reasons and feel that this way I´m better on my own where I can respect myself. I give myself peace and do whatever makes me happy (meditate, ...).
He may realize he cannot treat me that way and rethink his actions.
Or he may not and then it´s the best not to be the subject of his actions.
Summer breeze
We were 3 best friends.
One was living in a different country and we saw her only twice a year.
Once she came home in the summer and she was so happy with the small things around us. I missed this perspective. I realized I became too much of everything I didn´t like about the other friend. All the complaining, manipulating, being harsh to everybody and most of it - to myself.
And the distant friend was just like summer breeze to me. She made me realize that I lost this natural optimism in my thinking. Wish I was more often with her. But maybe I would take on her negative sides as well then.
It just made me think that I should put some distance to the other friend and heal my way of thinking.
One was living in a different country and we saw her only twice a year.
Once she came home in the summer and she was so happy with the small things around us. I missed this perspective. I realized I became too much of everything I didn´t like about the other friend. All the complaining, manipulating, being harsh to everybody and most of it - to myself.
And the distant friend was just like summer breeze to me. She made me realize that I lost this natural optimism in my thinking. Wish I was more often with her. But maybe I would take on her negative sides as well then.
It just made me think that I should put some distance to the other friend and heal my way of thinking.
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